Children and young people

Children and young people

Kids grieve too

Grief is different for children and young people. It can be scary or confusing for kids who might not understand what is happening around them. Young kids might act differently and behave in the following ways:

  • Wet the bed.
  • Not sleep as well at night.
  • Be needy, sooky and want to be held more.
  • Cry more than usual.

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Young people

Young people and older kids are different when they grieve too.

  • They might start to act up and get into trouble.
  • They may be angry or aggressive.
  • Older kids might want to be left alone and not want to talk.
  • They might start drinking alcohol or using drugs.

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What kids need                 

Sorry Time and times of grief are hard for everyone. It’s important to consider the child’s age, experience and what is right for the child’s family. Some of these things can help kids to understand their feelings and help them heal.

  • To be with and talk to people that they know and trust.
  • To be given time and permission to grieve.
  • To be included in ceremonies and allowed to go to funerals where appropriate. Kids need to say goodbye too.
  • To understand what’s happening – try to be honest with kids so they feel less confused and scared.
  • To have plenty of rest and eat healthy food so they feel good physically.
  • Exercise and spending time outdoors are good ways to clear the head.
  • To express their feelings and their grief, maybe through practising culture, art, writing, music or dance.

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